Welcome to a page dedicated to young men. I shall minister to young men in this page as led by the Spirit of GOD from time to time. Teachings and ministrations that will help young men in specific areas of life as the LORD will lead us will be discussed here. Young men, you are welcome to this page. Please diligently go through all the messages as they come,

𝐀𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧 𝐎𝐤𝐞.

THREE CHARACTER THAT WILL DESTROY A YOUNG MAN

As a person grows and matures in age, certain psychological that goes with physiological changes takes place both in young men and women. At that junction, decisions taken can significantly alter the course of your life for good or for bad. Unfortunately, still being young and not able to glimpse the future, you are at great risk if you make the wrong decisions. Some decisions taken as a young man will not only stay with you throughout life, but also throughout eternity. One bad decision can wreck your destiny or even eventually send you to hell. The truth is, by the time you realise these mistakes, it might be too late. Most adults and old people wish they can reverse their lives and return to being a teenager so they can reverse the decisions taken that wrecked their lives. All decisions goes into your foundation in life, if they are good decisions, they will hold up the structure of your life and ensure you end well; but if they are bad decisions, they will one day, when it might be too late, pull down the structure of your life. Young man, you cannot afford to miss it now so as to save your future. I pray that when you are old you will not shed bitter tears over the mistakes you made as a young man.

One of the things that helped me as a young man that has ensured that till today I have no regrets, but only sorrow over those who failed me in one area or the other knowing the repercussions of the mistakes they made, is the fact that I learnt how to hear GOD and obey HIM early in life. I stuck to divine direction without turning right or left. No matter what others did, I kept doing whatever I read in the Bible and continued obeying the leading of the HOLY SPIRIT. Some didn't understand me, but I stuck to divine direction. Young man, pause here, fall on your face before GOD and pray this prayer copied from the Bible. One of the prayers David prayed that made him strong. Start from "don't let me miss the road signs...". Do not continue without doing this.

Psalms 119:9. MSG
How can a young person live a clean life?
By carefully reading the map of your Word. I'm single-minded in pursuit of you; don't let me miss the road signs you've posted. I've banked your promises in the vault of my heart
so I won't sin myself bankrupt. Be blessed, God; train me in your ways of wise living. I'll transfer to my lips all the counsel that comes from your mouth; I delight far more in what you tell me about living than in gathering a pile of riches. I ponder every morsel of wisdom from you, I attentively watch how you've done it. I relish everything you've told me of life, I won't forget a word of it.

Never forget this wisdom,

Proverbs 2:1,3,6. Living Bible Version
[1](1-2) Every young man who listens to me and obeys my instructions will be given wisdom and good sense.
[3](3-5) Yes, if you want better insight and discernment, and are searching for them as you would for lost money or hidden treasure, then wisdom will be given you and knowledge of God himself; you will soon learn the importance of reverence for the Lord and of trusting him.
[6]For the Lord grants wisdom! His every word is a treasure of knowledge and understanding.

I read that scriptures early in life and i stuck to it like mad. Each time I look back and see the terrible mistakes I would have made in life if not for divine direction that saved me, I always say "thank you JESUS". I kept receiving advance warnings before disaster strike because i knew GOD and walked with HIM as a young man. I have lost count of so many deaths that missed me, including poisoning, all due to divine protection. All glory to GOD.

Any young man who is not born-again, does not have the HOLY SPIRIT, is not living holy, does not make sacrifices for GOD in giving and other forms of self-denial unto GOD, does not have the knowledge of GOD'S Word, lives in carnality and disobedience to GOD is already destroyed.

Talking about character, a few bad character are peculiar to many young men just emerging into adolescence, these are age specific character. They have the capacity to destroy you if not checked. They have destroyed many young men. Here are some of them.

1. "I know better than my elders". One of the things that helped me early in life is that I read the works and learnt from everyone I know has advanced beyond me. I devoured their books, videos and audios like mad. I might not have been connected to many of them, but I learnt from them all through their works. This is not to say all elders are perfect. No, far from it. Elders commit sin and make mistakes, even some far more grievous than the ones young men make. You can also learn from their mistakes. The life of those older than you affords you the opportunity to learn from both their good deeds and mistakes. If you are wise, you will learn. Why make the same mistakes others made. Some elders even tell people their mistakes so the younger ones can learn from it. The young man has an immense opportunity to escape the destructions older ones fell into. If you do not learn from their mistakes, you will repeat it. Mind you, not all elders are good, some are wicked. Pray like this now,

GOD keep me away from the bad elders and connect me only to the good ones.

2. "I can do whatever I like and get away with it". You are now getting big and muscular, having deep voice and can talk back, unlike when you were still a kid. Confidence and exposure is coming, girls are now giving you attention, no one spank you anymore, men now allow you speak and do stuffs, even in the Church. You might even start manifesting some anointing that makes people begin to respect you. It is at this stage that many young men make grievous mistakes, they start feeling big and lose their sense of respect, calmness and humility. They talk back to those they should not talk back to, they correct those that should correct them, some even beat up their superiors. Let me zero in on the Church here. A lot of young men have wrecked their entire destiny and future ministerial breakthrough through such mistakes. When you are anointed, people will always hail you, clap for you and honour you. A young mind, but anointed, might not be matured enough to handle this. Pride often destroy them. They begin to see themselves as more anointed than others. They now know the Bible and can quote many verses, even better than their senior Pastors, they get puffed up and begin to despise their senior Pastors who have done them no wrong. Young sisters start bringing them food and money, instead of them to always seek counsel from those GOD has placed them under, they believe they are wiser and make terrible mistakes in the ways of women, not yet having any experience in that area, yet believe they know better. A few who came to me in the issues of women for counsel escaped terrible disasters that their naivety would have caused to befall them, the "I know it all" ones were not that lucky. Let me caution the Church in the way we quickly ordain and promote a lot of young men who fast and pray a lot, get anointed and throw their weights around the Church. They have oratorical abilities that moves people and many Pastors always rush to ordain them. They place them on pedestals higher than their level of wisdom and they get puffed up, forgetting anointing is not wisdom, oratorical ability is not maturity. Such young men hardly last, they often become proud, rude and foster rebellion in the Church. Can't blame them, they were not properly managed. Once you place them at heights higher than their level of maturity, they see it as their normal level. If they go elsewhere and are not accorded the same pedestal, they react negatively and rebel, they feel you are insulting them, though you were helping them.

The grievous peril of their mistakes is that they are ignorant of the law of foundations. The law is that anywhere you serve, whatever you do there becomes a foundation you will reap in the future. Whatever good or bad you do there will always come back to haunt you for the rest of your life unless you go back to correct the mistake. If you are not okay with what they do there, instead of fighting and scattering the place, simply leave in peace, best that way. ALWAYS LEAVE IN PEACE. Two true stories.

1

I met a man living in sin and very hardened against GOD. I tried preaching to him but he smiled saying he was once an ordained assistant Pastor in a Church that was opening branches like mad not bothered at the spiritual maturity of those they were ordaining. I was shocked and asked more questions. He obliged me. He got born-again in the Church and was baptised in the HOLY SPIRIT almost immediately. He began to give prophecies in Church and was very active. The Church immediately ordained him as an assistant Pastor though he was just four months born-again. Who on earth will ordain a man simply because he prophesied and spoke in tongues ! Just four months in the LORD for that matter. Pride destroyed him. He rebelled against authority and backslid. He became an hardened sinner no one could preach to anymore.

2

A young man joined a Church and was very active. He was sound in GOD'S Word too. Everybody loved him. Sisters and brothers flocked around him and they all became friends. He was trusted. One of the brothers was courting a sister in the Church whose parents were also Church members. It was open and the whole Church was fully aware including her parents. They all supported it and were already making wedding plans. This new young man in question suddenly began to woo this same sister behind the back of her fiance. He went as far as turning her mind against him until she went to break up her courtship with her fiance throwing the entire wedding arrangement in jeopardy. Chaos erupted when she announced the new brother as her man. Her parents were shocked and the Church was enraged. The new young man was summoned and he became quite rude at the elders. The Church stood against him. The lady's parents did not even want him near their daughter since they had earlier accepted her initial man, the right man. They began to work on their daughter's mind to restore her former relationship, but her initial fiance cancelled all his wedding plans with her and never wanted her near him anymore. It was a big mess. All this in the same Church. In the world, those men would have killed each other, but Salvation did not let them fight, though the enemity was bitter. The elders now began to investigate the new young man. They found the Church he left before joining them and discovered that was the same thing he did that drove him out of his former Church. The elders of the former Church reprimanded him as help and proceeded to place him on discipline. The young anointed and oratorical young man rebelled and left for this new Church. The curse was following him. Everywhere he goes, until he goes back to serve the discipline, he will keep repeating the same mistake and be driven away.

Young men you get my point now. There is nothing like I can always get away with it. As you grow into adolescence and begin to get space in life, keep a cool head. When those ahead of you are talking, shut up and learn. If they discipline you, accept it, it is all for your own good.

3. "No need to recoprocate". As you grow up in life and money begin to come to you. The first thing you should do after giving to GOD is to seek out those ahead of you and who helped you in life to give back to them and honour them. Ensure they bless you, this will ensure you keep rising in life. Never begin to pay back those who helped you rise in life with evil. You will lay a bad foundation for yourself.

More teachings coming for young men.

Women are more emotional than men, they feel more than men and tend to get more easily hurt than men. They also are more susceptible to being influenced by others. As a man, you must understand this basic nature of women so as not to make mistakes in handling them. There have been exceptions to this in a few women; some have been exceptional and different from the average woman. A few women have refused to be victims of their emotions and various external influence. Hope we can have more women like that, who, in spite of being emotional creatures,  can still look beyond how they feel to operate by sound reasoning and wisdom. Meanwhile, let us as men learn a few things you should not do around your woman because of their affection and strong emotions, you might hurt their feelings. 

1. Don't compliment other women more than your woman. Be careful in the way you compliment other women around your woman. You must never let her feel you see another woman as more special than her. Your woman want to be sure she is special to you and to know you desire no other woman apart from her. Your compliments to her gives her this assurance, to compliment another woman above her crushes that assurance and hurt her deeply. 

2. Not all women are your mother and sisters. Your woman knows your mother and sisters, but she will feel hurt when you get too free with other women not your sisters or mother to the point of touches that are too affectionate for casual rapport. You hold the hand of other women like you hold hers, you hug other women like you hug her, you share intimate thoughts with other women like you share with her, you tend to spend more time with other women than you spend with her. Some professions demand you spend time with women, this is simply work and she understand that. As a Church leader, you must spend time with women, she knows that too. In all these, ensure you carry her along and be transparent in all of your dealings with other women. All other women must know she is your special woman. Hold her hand in front of them, hug her in front of them, speak sweet words to her before them, compliment her before them; this gives her a strong sense of emotional security and let other women respect her special place in your life. 

3. There are times circumstances demand you help other women not your woman. Some women sincerely need help and might reach out to you. When giving gifts to other women, carry your woman along, hope she is not the selfish type though. Giving women gifts secretly and keeping it from your woman is a bad signal. If she discovers behind your back, her trust in you will begin to wane. Best both of you plan the gifts as a couple and let her do the giving on your behalf. This helps her sense of emotional security and also make it clear to other women you give gifts to that you have no hidden agenda. The only exception is if you are unfortunate to have a woman who will never let you help others even when GOD has asked you to do so and made it clear, in your best interest, best to proceed and obey GOD with or without her consent or knowledge. NEVER DISOBEY GOD BECAUSE OF YOUR WOMAN, SUCH MISTAKES WILL EVENTUALLY DESTROY BOTH OF YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. OBEY GOD FOR HER SAKE. 

4. Stop acting or doing things as if she is not important or insignificant. If she has to hear important information she ought to have heard from you from outsiders, it will hurt her. I know some men hide things from their woman because of the wickedness of their women, I understand this. So unfortunate they got a bad woman they must hide from. In a normal scenario when you have a good woman, never let her hear from outsiders what she should have heard from you. Such things kill trust. I know divulging information to some women requires some wisdom depending on the level of maturity of your woman and her ability to handle sensitive issues lest you cause more troubles, in all these, let wisdom lead you. Whichever way you choose to handle information, ensure you do not break the bond of trust between you and your woman. 

5. Understand your woman's state of mind and level of maturity in handling her. This will help you know what to say or not to say to her and how to handle issues that concerns her without hurting her. Not all women are the same, you must take your time to settle down to study your woman and use your knowledge of her brain functions to properly handle her. Some words can trigger her wrongly, others might trigger her rightly. Years back, while I was still at the University, a sister visited my room. My other roomates were around too. She was coming directly from the salon where she went to fix her hair. The hair was newly done and the cream or whatever they apply had a strong smell. I perceived the smell and wanted to compliment. I made a mistake and used the wrong word. Instead of saying sweet scent or aroma, I called it "odour". She became so angry, her countenance changed, she was hurt and left my room in anger. My roomates laughed at me for being so naive at making such a grammatical blunder that an average man would have laughed over, not a woman. It was a sincere mistake. I simply made a grammatical blunder. I actually thought I was saying "aroma". That is women for you. Men have no interest in you commenting about their hair, nails or such stuffs, can even annoy us. Women can divorce because of such. When they dress well, fix new hairstyles, cut their nails, cook special dish, clean the house specially, lay new flowers, etc, and they deliberately show you to get your attention, they are asking for your compliment, don't deny them of it, be generous with it. 

6. Never make comments on a woman's body if she is not your properly married wife lest you ignite a fire that can destroy both of you. Such comments are reserved for only your properly married spouse. The only exception is if you are in a position of authority over her to appropriately and within the limits of decency correct her body display that are not proper and no other woman is in place to correct her, then you may do so. This is for a good cause, but stay within the limits of decency in correction.